Qiúzhī-bùdé, bù qiú zì lái.

求之不得, 不求自來。

Lit [It often happens that if you] seek something, [you will] not get [it, but if you do] not seek [it, it] will just come [to you].

Note [Both halves are used independently as chengyu; see also kě yù ér bù kě qiú above and tàpò tiě xié below.]

Topics bùqiú-zìlái chengyu COINCIDENCE FATE NEED qiúzhī-bùdé